every man on his own things," said Paul, "but every man also on the
things of others. Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law
of Christ."

On the subject of promoting the external accomplishments of her
scholars, it became a question how far Mrs. Graham was to
countenance them in their attendance on public balls--to what length
it was proper for her to go so as to meet the received opinions of
the world in these concerns. She consulted with her pious friends,
and wrote to Lady Glenorchy on the subject. Her ladyship's letter in
reply is so excellent that the serious reader will be gratified with
its insertion.


"BARNTON, December 27, 1781.

"DEAR MADAM--I received your letter last week, and also one some
time ago from Mrs. Walker, in which she desired me to send you my
sentiments upon the alteration you had made, and still thought of
making, upon your plan.

"I have since endeavored to consider, with all the attention of
which I am _at present_ capable, the arguments that may be
brought on both sides of the question; and with regard to the first
point, the _practisings_, I will frankly own, that could you send
your young ladies to one where _girls only_ are admitted, I
should more readily yield my opinion of the matter to those Christians
who have advised you to it. But as I learn that it is a promiscuous
dance of boys and girls, I must in conscience say that I look upon
such a meeting to be as pernicious in its effects upon the minds of