"But what is to be done?" said I to him. "Shall the woman make the
advances?"

"I do not know. But, if it is a question of equality, let the equality
be complete. Though it has been found that to contract marriages through
the agency of match-makers is humiliating, it is nevertheless a thousand
times preferable to our system. There the rights and the chances are
equal; here the woman is a slave, exhibited in the market. But as she
cannot bend to her condition, or make advances herself, there begins
that other and more abominable lie which is sometimes called GOING INTO
SOCIETY, sometimes AMUSING ONE'S SELF, and which is really nothing but
the hunt for a husband.

"But say to a mother or to her daughter that they are engaged only in a
hunt for a husband. God! What an offence! Yet they can do nothing else,
and have nothing else to do; and the terrible feature of it all is to
see sometimes very young, poor, and innocent maidens haunted solely by
such ideas. If only, I repeat, it were done frankly; but it is always
accompanied with lies and babble of this sort:--

"'Ah, the descent of species! How interesting it is!'

"'Oh, Lily is much interested in painting.'

"'Shall you go to the Exposition? How charming it is!'

"'And the troika, and the plays, and the symphony. Ah, how adorable!'

"'My Lise is passionately fond of music.'